Comments on: The curse of praise http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2007/02/curse-of-praise.html medical blog Sun, 22 Nov 2009 07:50:13 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Anonymous http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2007/02/curse-of-praise.html/comment-page-1#comment-72198 Anonymous Sat, 24 Feb 2007 16:47:00 +0000 http://clients.emmense.com/kevinmd/2007/02/the-curse-of-praise.html#comment-72198 Being a nice person, friendly, and empathetic are achievements also--character achievements and therefore the best kind. Some people have such poor character that they simply have no positve value as individuals--and are not being served by being told that they do. Being a nice person, friendly, and empathetic are achievements also–character achievements and therefore the best kind. Some people have such poor character that they simply have no positve value as individuals–and are not being served by being told that they do.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2007/02/curse-of-praise.html/comment-page-1#comment-72170 Anonymous Fri, 23 Feb 2007 05:39:00 +0000 http://clients.emmense.com/kevinmd/2007/02/the-curse-of-praise.html#comment-72170 The issue here is that the child is being praised for an achievement (valid or not, who knows).<br/><br/>If that is all the praise they get, then perhaps they develop the sense that they are only valuable for the achievements, not as individuals.<br/><br/>So your worth as a child (seen by the child) is determined by how well you did on the test, not the fact that you are a nice person, friendly, empathetic etc. The issue here is that the child is being praised for an achievement (valid or not, who knows).

If that is all the praise they get, then perhaps they develop the sense that they are only valuable for the achievements, not as individuals.

So your worth as a child (seen by the child) is determined by how well you did on the test, not the fact that you are a nice person, friendly, empathetic etc.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2007/02/curse-of-praise.html/comment-page-1#comment-72167 Anonymous Fri, 23 Feb 2007 04:38:00 +0000 http://clients.emmense.com/kevinmd/2007/02/the-curse-of-praise.html#comment-72167 <i>The problem of course, is that after another generation of "self-esteemism" those grandmothers will be idiots as well.</i> <br/>At least it provides all of us with entertainment when parents keep saying to talentless kids how well they sing or dance and then they are show up on TV auditioning for "American Idol", "So you think you can dance" and other shows and make fools of themselves. The problem of course, is that after another generation of “self-esteemism” those grandmothers will be idiots as well.
At least it provides all of us with entertainment when parents keep saying to talentless kids how well they sing or dance and then they are show up on TV auditioning for “American Idol”, “So you think you can dance” and other shows and make fools of themselves.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2007/02/curse-of-praise.html/comment-page-1#comment-72139 Anonymous Thu, 22 Feb 2007 19:31:00 +0000 http://clients.emmense.com/kevinmd/2007/02/the-curse-of-praise.html#comment-72139 The problem of course, is that after another generation of "self-esteemism" those grandmothers will be idiots as well. The problem of course, is that after another generation of “self-esteemism” those grandmothers will be idiots as well.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2007/02/curse-of-praise.html/comment-page-1#comment-72104 Anonymous Thu, 22 Feb 2007 00:28:00 +0000 http://clients.emmense.com/kevinmd/2007/02/the-curse-of-praise.html#comment-72104 New research? It is what has, for generations, been refered to in the south as the "plantation boy" syndrome. Or in other words "spoiled."<br/><br/>One thing mankind has done throughout his history is raise children, and folklore psychology with regard to that is not to be taken lightly. Most of it has stood up well over time against the self-esteem pop psychology of the last generation.<br/><br/>This takes a direct stab at one of the worst fallacies of pop psychology, the elevation of self-esteem to a central place. Ironically, Nathanial Brandon, who contributed to the popularization of self-esteem as a central concept, always emphasized that it must be earned through achievement, not inculcated by others.<br/><br/>People worry too much about their children. I never ever recommend child-rearing literature to my patients, advising them instead to call their grandmothers. New research? It is what has, for generations, been refered to in the south as the “plantation boy” syndrome. Or in other words “spoiled.”

One thing mankind has done throughout his history is raise children, and folklore psychology with regard to that is not to be taken lightly. Most of it has stood up well over time against the self-esteem pop psychology of the last generation.

This takes a direct stab at one of the worst fallacies of pop psychology, the elevation of self-esteem to a central place. Ironically, Nathanial Brandon, who contributed to the popularization of self-esteem as a central concept, always emphasized that it must be earned through achievement, not inculcated by others.

People worry too much about their children. I never ever recommend child-rearing literature to my patients, advising them instead to call their grandmothers.

]]> By: Kevin http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2007/02/curse-of-praise.html/comment-page-1#comment-72091 Kevin Wed, 21 Feb 2007 19:19:00 +0000 http://clients.emmense.com/kevinmd/2007/02/the-curse-of-praise.html#comment-72091 Sure. Sure.

]]> By: Timeless Boulevard http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2007/02/curse-of-praise.html/comment-page-1#comment-72089 Timeless Boulevard Wed, 21 Feb 2007 18:42:00 +0000 http://clients.emmense.com/kevinmd/2007/02/the-curse-of-praise.html#comment-72089 Hi, may I link your site to my blogsites? Thanks! :-) Hi, may I link your site to my blogsites? Thanks! :-)

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