You directed this question at me. I have chronic lung disease, and I often miss weeks of work because of my illness. I was fired from my job last due to my illness, which is apparently an illegal act. But I didn’t sue. It’s not my nature. If you ask me, I would rather be the father of that girl, because I’m sure he derives much pleasure and happiness from having her as a daughter, even if she had a botched operation. Working as an ER doc is Hell, I’ve been assaulted and abused in every possible meaning of the words “assaulted” and “abused”, The lawyers are just another form of assault, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, I’d rather be the father of this girl. But I shouldn’t complain, I’m getting out.

Not sure where you are going, but as the ridiculous “wrongful birth” lawsuit in Germany showed, frivolous lawsuits happen in Europe as well.

I noticed that if I feel bitter about something the only person I am hurting is myself. Because whoever I feel bitter about really doesn’t know or care. So wherever you go, I hope you’d find what you are looking for and loose some of this bitterness.

But just to get some perspective, try to place yourself in this girl’s father’s shoes and think how you’d feel about the whole experience. Would you be very understanding? Also, would you rather be sued or be in their shoes?

Best of luck, anyway.

Because when you’ve been sued twice, one for a patient I never even saw, the second time because a family decided to sue a nursing home and the sodomites threw me into the suit to see if they could shake any money out of my insurance ( I was her ER Doc, she had a fractured hip, I diagnosed her fractured hip, I admitted her to ortho, lot of malpractice there) you get bitter about the system, paranoid, and no longer care about patients. They become future plaintiffs, risks to your well-being. I sincerely believe this is widespread, but I’m the only one who’s willing to admit it. I’m getting out, to practice in a healthcare system where I can care about the patients again, not view them as future litigants. That’s what you are in the U.S. After all, as the sodmites say, “it’s not personal, It’s all business”. Thanks sodomites.

I also have POF. I had it diagnosed at 38 after a few years of symptoms. When I got the diagnosis, I thought my life has ended. I felt old; and the symptoms of menopause were really terrible, much worse than those of my mother who had menopause at normal age. And I was a grown woman and not that young – this girl is 7, and I still had my ovaries – this girl doesn’t. My bones had already reached their highest density, this girl’s bones haven’t. All-cause mortality is also higher, in case you don’t know.

In spite of being on HRT, 9 years later I have some thinning in my hips which got worse in the last couple of years. How much worse it’ll be for this girl?

Why do you have to minimize the damage done to this girl to make a point about lawsuits?

P.S. : To Kitty: Why do you think I describe her “life-long depression”. The sodomites will tack every possible future disability on this doc, and multiply it by the “pain and suffering”. And I’m sure he did it on purpose.

A perfect system would aknowledge this mistake and quickly compensate the girl at an appropriate level. It could all be done in weeks. Of course, that won’t happen. The “legal process” will have to run its course. Lawyers on both sides will enrich themselves for a year or more before the girl sees anything. The plaintiff lawyers will demonize the doctor, even if he admits the mistake. That is how they will justify their involvement in a case that any layperson can easily understand.

When a grown woman losing them due to surgery, and enters instant menopause it is not fun. I can’t imagine what that little girl feels like.